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7/11/2018 4 Comments

Words of Encouragement: Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful

You don't have to say anything..I know I've been bad. I haven't posted in over a month, and quite frankly, that's absurd! I apologize a thousand times over. When I started this blogging journey, I never anticipated the impact my words and testimonies, and even my fashion expertise, would influence and touch others. For those of you that've reached out to make sure everything is okay, and those that have cussed me and told me to get to writing (cough cough, Mom), I'm back and hopefully better. This past month has been beyond hectic. And in the midst of all the chaos, I've been forcing in some me time – starting new series on Netflix, unplugging from social media, severely sleeping in on days off. I'll be the first to say that it's working. I feel great mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. 

I'd like to return on a positive note with this month's Words of Encouragement: Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful. Webster dictionary defines the word beautiful as (1) having qualities of beauty; exciting aesthetic pleasure, and (2) generally pleasing; excellent. We aren't, however, confined to textbook definitions. You define what you want YOUR beauty to look like. For me, beauty is defined by personal maintenance which includes pampering. If nothing else, I HAVE to have my nails done. I will literally feel unattractive if my nails have grown out too far and I haven't taken care of it, or if my polish from my pedicure starts chipping. If my hair and eyebrows aren't done, forget about it lol. Not everyone is like me. Some people love volunteering, or reading books, or exercising. It looks different for everyone, and by no means does it have to be physical. I actually believe beauty starts in the mind, and it shines through. 

Being your own kind of beautiful, however, requires you to be kind to yourself. I'm probably the leader of the "Be Hard on Oneself" Committee. Stop that, it's detrimental. Even recently I've noticed instances where I've been really harsh to myself and after taking a step back, I realized that I needed to respect myself and not be disappointed when I hold myself to non-mandatory habitual standards. More specifically, I'm sure you all have noticed that in my absence, I hadn't posted June's Words of Encouragement (Be True to You). To be honest, I've tried to write that post 3 different times with a different approach each time. It would start out great and then somewhere along the lines, it wandered off into something that didn't make sense. The message I was attempting to portray got lost every single time. I haven't been stressed about life, but let me tell you trying to figure out what to say and how to say definitely stressed me out. I felt obligated to keep up with this trend I'd started, and when it became difficult, I was frustrated. It wasn't until June 30 that I realized that it was okay – I knew what it meant to be true to oneself, but because I'm on the journey of self-discovery and self-love right along with you, articulating it wasn't as simple as I'd like. It wasn't the end of the world that I didn't have content like I hoped, and no one would hate me for skipping out on it. Maybe I'll revisit it at a later date.

As always, there's a lesson in all my rambling. Be gentle to yourself. You ought to treat yourself the way you deserve and expect others to treat you. Speak to yourself with honor and respect. Treat yo'self ALWAYS (not into a financial crisis though). You are smart, gentle, exquisite. Define what you want your beauty to look like. There are no limits, so don't limit yourself. And as for me and my writing, please be patient with me. Life has been coming at me fast, but I promise I will write when the opportunity presents itself. I appreciate you all more than you know; thank you! Until next time, xo.
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Yvonne
7/11/2018 04:55:30 pm

Hi Titziana... I have read some of your blogging, and I am so proud of you. You’re doing a good job, all grown up and responsible. I am certain that your family is very excited and happy to know that you are demonstrating such intellect and wonderful striving spirit. Keep up the good work and keep your focus.

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unc
7/12/2018 09:08:22 am

Hey hey! Super proud of you. Thank you so much for the words of wisdom that cause me to stop and think.

I love what you’re doing here on this blog. Thanks for creating it and keep that amazing content coming!

Love it! 👍🏾

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Mark Davis
3/15/2019 04:22:09 pm

Afternoon and I greet you in the mighty name of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Style is a very wonderful thing and a big part of our society sometimes we start a career but after worship things seems dark life will always be lile that. One thing I can tell you I have been there feeling lonely and I don't know where you are and why I haven't seen any blog in a while even my kids ask dad what happen to the young lady that you share her blog with us.
I told them you are a little busy but just to say you might think your post are not being seen of helping others we miss it does help alot out there, in my life I remember I reach a point not knowing what to do where to turn then I remember Gods word saying I will not leave or forsake you. When I look at myself in the mirror and say why and I doing this to myself I stop eating dont want to talk to anyone keep finding excuses it was terrible and the help and motivation that I need was in my little book call the bible.
I don't know you in person but listen out in this world their are person that are longing for a roof a passion to do something but you have a passion and a love for what you do so don't let the devil steal your joy.
Rember God loves you very much no matter if society doesn't. I know without a doubt your mom loves you words cannot explain when I look at the passion I have for IT and I was so depress if I did not listen to God get up brush myself off then focus and keep moving without any distractions .
So please you might not feel the urge but get up put on your game face and do this so person can read and feel overwhelm with you mind that you put in these blog. Thank you for blogging so do it now not tomorrow now. Awaiting new blogs to share with my kids. Thank you

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Ingrid Davis
3/20/2019 05:54:06 pm

good evening truly your daughter words are inspiring and looking to read many more as God inspire her .so happy for you and her but its ony God who make all this happen .Love Ingrid

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