Self-Care 101

I know this is a fashion blog and we’ll be talking a lot about external appearance and confidence,  but I think it’s important to first look within yourself for that inner confidence. I may be new to blogging and a little unsure of what makes a blog good or even great, but I promise this will all make sense. Honesty especially to self is critical and I made a vow that I would start being honest with myself and my feelings about life’s occurrences. Take it from someone who has been through it, confidence isn’t something that grows overnight. When you have negative feelings about yourself, it translates in the way you dress yourself or care for yourself or even how you treat others. But once you start being true to you and your emotions and/or triggers, or whatever else you may try to avoid, you’ll notice how things start to turn around. And confidence doesn’t have to relate to anything specifically other than how YOU feel about yourself.

A lot of times people connect all insecurities to the absence of a parent, and I’ll be the first one to tell you that doesn’t exactly hold truth. I grew up with both my parents — my daddy was present and loved me, told me I was beautiful, and treated me like a princess; all the things people point to when discussing a lack of confidence. But things happen and sometimes, it’s hard to believe some of the positive things you're told. Regardless how much you may have been built up, there are ugly people who only enter your life to tear you down. And I don’t mean physically ugly, I’m talking about internally in character and personality. I know we’ve all had our share of The Toxics but this is the year of change and breakthrough. If they’re not building you up, they’re breaking you down - people, jobs, relationships - and honey that’s not a part of the life plan. Cut those toxins out your life!

I’ve been feeling really blue the past few days so I want to remind you (and myself) to be encouraged. Things do get better. Life will turn around. All you need is the faith of a mustard seed. Once you start believing and speaking power over things, you can really bring them to fruition. I sacrificed a lot moving to Atlanta 7 months ago,  and even though my life has transformed completely,  which hasn’t seemed like it’s for the better, I know it is and I’m so grateful. I can feel the difference in the blessings I receive. I feel the difference in the way I carry myself,  or make decisions. I know that God is working on me and building me up to prepare for greater. 

So I end with this: be encouraged, be blessed,  and always dress your best from the inside out! 

xoxo TSJ.